“It is a divine gift to find the light inside while in the midst of despair.”
– Leta B.

Miscarriage Counseling

Are You Grieving The Loss Of A Pregnancy?

Are you feeling empty, sad or angry following a miscarriage? Do you lie awake at night asking yourself why the baby didn’t make it? Perhaps you wonder if there’s anything you could have done differently. Or maybe you hide in your office, bathroom or bedroom because you because you fear re-telling the story of your miscarriage. Does your partner’s grief add to your own? Do you feel like you can’t express your pain to your family, friends and co-workers? Do you wish you could accept what happened and feel like yourself again?

Grieving the lost dreams of your baby can feel devastating. Reminders, such as things you bought to prepare for the baby, other people’s children, people asking you about your pregnancy can compound your feelings of anger, sadness or loss. It can be incredibly difficult to explain that the baby you were so excited about is no longer coming. While it’s common to feel depressed following any loss, if you believe that the miscarriage was your fault or you feel unable to move on, you may need careful advice and support from an experienced and compassionate therapist who understands what you’re going through.

You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone

Because the topic of miscarriage is painful and not generally spoken of, many women suffer in isolation. Grieving someone that you never met can be difficult and confusing. And, it can be difficult to talk about this pain with your friends and family.

While you may feel alone in your loss, you are not. According to national estimates, roughly 15 to 20 percent of all pregnancies in the United States end in miscarriage. While miscarriages are common, the experience is different for every woman. Miscarriages can range finding out months in that the fetus didn’t survive to delivering a stillborn. And, symptoms can range from confusion, depression and anxiety to severe symptoms of post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD). Regardless of how long ago your miscarriage occurred or the details of your experience, miscarriage counseling can help. A warm, empathetic therapist can help you accept your loss, process and find a path to healing.

Miscarriage Counseling Can Help You Heal

There’s no way to get around grief. You have to go through it, and I’m here to help. I know that your pain is real. While therapy cannot change what happened, it can help you find a path through the grief. I can help you develop the insight and skills need to get through those really tough days and nights where you feel overwhelmed by sorrow and grief, when it’s hard to breathe and wrap your mind around what happened.

In miscarriage counseling sessions, I will provide you with a safe, confidential and totally nonjudgmental space to explore your innermost feelings. Together we can work through challenging emotions. I can help you understand the complexity of grief and loss and learn how to manage those feelings. My practice is very supportive, warm and empathetic and designed to honor your story.

I’m a cognitive behavioral therapist who uses narrative therapy as a way to process grief and loss. I’m also certified by Post Partum Support International to treat women who are experiencing severe grief specific to prenatal trauma and loss. As someone who has experienced several miscarriages myself, I know firsthand how hard miscarrying can be. I’ve also helped several family and friends process their miscarriages. Although I have gone through this, I maintain that every woman’s experience is different. I don’t counsel from own experience. Rather, we’ll work together to discover what your need out of the therapeutic process. We’ll work collaboratively in setting and reaching goals at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

You don’t have to go through this alone. With the right approach and the guidance of a warm, empathetic therapist, you can get through this grief. And, if you want to move forward with your family planning, miscarriage counseling can help you identify your options and feel healthy and confident about your future. I am here to listen to and empower your story. I know what you’re going through is incredibly difficult, and I want to help you get through this.

Although you realize the benefits of miscarriage counseling, you still may have some questions or concerns about therapy.

Many women get through a miscarriage without therapy. Do I need really miscarriage counseling?

The experience of a miscarriage is different for every woman. Just because your mom or friend didn’t need therapy doesn’t mean you don’t. Ultimately you know what’s best for you. And, if you’re struggling right now, there is absolutely no shame in seeking help. A miscarriage can be devastating, especially if there was trauma involved. It can lead to depression, anxiety and even panic attacks. Processing grief and trauma are vital to your ability to forward, especially if you would like to be pregnant again. It’s so important to address grief and loss before you carry another child. It may seem like you don’t need therapy now, but if you don’t process your grief, it may come up at another time, perhaps when you’re pregnant again. Miscarriage can also have a detrimental impact on a marriage or partnership. You may want to seek counseling for yourself or for the sake of your relationship.

I’m not sure I can talk about this. It’s too painful.

When I experienced my first miscarriage, it was literally too painful to talk about it. Even though I was working with a therapist at the time, I chose not to process the trauma with my counselor. Six months later, I really regretted my decision because my unprocessed grief created major health problems. I know that talking about the loss can feel like diving into a giant swimming pool of your pain. It can feel horrible, but it’s also therapeutic and vital. You cannot go around the grief, you have to go through it. If you don’t process your pain, it will likely catch up to you later.

I’m not sure I can afford miscarriage counseling.

Please don’t downplay the importance of your mental health and welling. The most important part of a healthy baby is a healthy mom, and part of maintaining your health is coping with this traumatic event. Mental health can influence your relationships, physical health and children that you’ve yet to conceive. Your wellbeing is invaluable.

With that being said, I am one of the less expensive therapists in the area. And, if money is the only thing standing between you and therapy, please give me a call. I will help you find therapy that works for you, even if it means making a referral. I want to help you no matter what. Please don’t let financial concerns stop you from working through this pain. Call today and we’ll figure out the finances.

Miscarriage Counseling Can Help You Process Get Through Your Grief

I want to hear your story and help you through this. I invite you to call me at 303–536–1906 for a free 15-minute consultation. I’m happy to discuss your specific needs and answer any questions you have about miscarriage counseling and my practice.